believe: believe in the strength of you and that your wants and desires matter

hope: never stop hoping … hope is everything

do: do what you can to achieve that which is important to you

venture: life is a journey that is worth enjoying… travel and experience

solo: sometimes you have to go at it with just you and create memories that will last a life time

hmmmmm?????? 

When someone ask you to write a post about a specific thing …. you find the time to share your thoughts on it.

I was asked to write a post about venturing solo … 

Here is what I think about venturing solo ….

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Do It!!!!!

If you are able.

If you are healthy.

If your finances will allow it.

If your life will allow it. Do it.

I can totally understand having reservations and being concerned with traveling solo. I remember taking my first solo domestic trip and I was a little nervous. I went from Dallas to New Orleans… That flight was less than 3 hours and the drive is somewhere between 8-10 (maybe a little less or more depending on how you drive). I was extremely nervous. I made sure multiple people had my flight information and hotel information. I was super cautious and anxious. Then something magical happened … probably because I’m a Black girl and we’re magical ya know … I just felt at peace while there.

What was unfortunate is that I was sick the entire time in NOLA but I enjoyed myself. I walked the French Quarters, ate yummy food, bought all the cookies at Loretta’s (if you havent been you need to go), and went to a concert. I was so happy that I made the decision to venture solo. I couldn’t find anyone who could travel at the same time as me, who wanted to attend the concert I was going to, so – I booked the flight and took the trip on my own.

It. Was. Great.

You always want to be safe. I am not going to encourage you to travel into war-torn countries that are in the middle of political unrest. That’s just not smart. Do your research about the place that you are traveling to and learn as much as you can before you go. If it is a new country learn some basics with the language and a little about the culture so that everything doesn’t take you by surprise. Exchange your money before you go at the bank – you can exchange in airports – higher fees – and you can often use ATMs in the country you’re traveling to, but there will be a cost to that, so if you have time add it to the to do list of things to get done before you leave. Even if you want to venture out solo to other parts of the state that you live in (if you’re in America reading this) do it. When I lived in Atlanta, I remember meeting people who had never been past Birmingham (yes – – its a different state but only about 2 hours away)… the world is big and becomes small at the same time. Life is an adventure…. so – – if you want to travel and you can … do it… life is a risk! Be a risk taker. 

Do not live in a world of

“What If’s”  …. nope.

Don’t do it. 

I want to share a story about a friend …. I hope she reads this because my conversation with her allowed many good things to happen … and she didn’t remain living in a world of “What If’s”.

I have this great friend … I’m gonna call her Jayne (Her name is not Jayne – nor does it start with a “J” but if she reads this she will know its about her) and Jayne wanted to make a big purchase. She wanted to buy a new car. And BABY- when I say Jayne wanted a new car- she didn’t want any car… we talking top of the line. Jayne could afford the car. Jayne works hard. Everyday. Jayne saves her money. Jayne plans and does her research.  -clearly we need to be like Jayne- and Jayne really wanted this car but Jayne can be practical at times and she knew that this car was a WANT and not a NEED. So she didn’t get it. The car she was currently driving was in good condition and was paid off – so there really was no need for a new car.

Yes no NEED for a new car but WANTS are okay. So we had a long conversation about living in a world of “What If’s” … she made it clear to me that all of her What If’s were very real and valid … (Facts – they are all real and valid – but I wasn’t having it)

WHAT IF I lose my job

WHAT IF I get sick

WHAT IF something happens in my home and we have a big expense for repairs

WHAT IF there is a medical emergency

WHAT IF

WHAT IF

WHAT IF

WHAT IF

WHAT IF

WHAT IF

yes …. WhAt If?????

… do you know we can make the list of WHAT IF’s continue on and on …. I gave my thoughts on her buying her car and not living in the land of WHAT IF … GET THE CAR ….

IF you have saved the money for this car you have definitely been thinking about this purchase. If your job (to the best of your knowledge) is not in any danger of being taken from you – go for it. Life is a gamble and nothing is guaranteed but, what I wanted to get across to her was … WHAT IF none of the WHAT IF’s on your list never happened and you never got your car that you wanted? That would be so unfortunate. It is more than okay to fulfill our WANTS… I think it’s pretty fantastic if our wants can be fulfilled. 

I encouraged her to go for the purchase …. you know what … she did it! She bought the car. And she loves the car… and she was able to gift the car she owned that was paid for to someone – look at that another blessing. She has greatly enjoyed her car. Her life hasn’t fallen apart. Her job is still safe. She has been healthy. None of things on her WHAT IF happened (could they happen? sure – did they – no).

She shared this conversation with someone very close to her -we shall call them Person C-  … and it was encouraging to Person C – Person C decided to not live in a world of WHAT IF’s and make a purchase that they wanted. I smiled as Jayne told me about Person C and their purchase.

You never know the impact your words are having on someone. I was honest and shared how I felt. Jayne didn’t have to listen to me. Nope. Jayne really wanted this car but seemed really nervous to make the purchase. I cant make guarantees but, I felt super confident with telling Jayne to go for it.

And just like with Jayne I share with you … GO FOR ADVENTURE…. venture out solo if you can. I PROMISE ….

You will not regret it …. if you do regret it I would love for you to share with me about it!

If I didn’t take the chance to venture solo you wouldn’t be reading this blog right now. I would never have considered blogging if it wasn’t for me coming to Shanghai to work for Disney English. I never would have come to Shanghai and had this experience of living abroad. If I didn’t venture solo I never would have came to Shanghai and I never (I’m pretty sure) would have made it to Thailand to have the experience of riding elephants and eating Thai food in Thailand. if I didn’t venture solo I never would have made it to Seoul, South Korea (for a great solo international trip – because I had to first venture solo to China). If I didn’t venture solo I never would have come to Shanghai, which means I wouldn’t have met the folks in the picture below.  …. and let me tell you … these #melanatedladies ARE PRETTY AFROTASTICALLY AMAZING.

I could keep going with the … If I didn’t venture solo list … so I will stop it there…

I am all for venturing solo and experiencing all that life has to offer! GO for it. 

#blackgirlmagic #melanatedshanghaimoments #spreadthebagel

Location: Spread The Bagel

Nearest Metro: South Shaanxi Road – Exit 7- Lines 10/12

Address: 611 Nanchang Rd, Xuhui Qu, Shanghai Shi, China

…. so to the one who is wondering about venturing solo i say this…. go for all that life has to offer for you. Treat yourself to a great lunch with just you. Take your Kindle and read your book. Take your journal and write a couple of pages. OR just people watch. But learn to avoid the hustle and bustle of life and have a break from it all…. it will not be as bad as you think ….

I have traveled to some pretty amazing places… one of my favorites being South Africa … and yeah … Cape of Good Hope left me absolutely speechless … but now I have so many stories to tell about the places i have been, the food i have tried, the planes i have been on, all of the airports that I have walked through, customs and immigration stories, language barriers and struggles, the people i have met, the laughs that i have had, the history i have encountered …

….the everything that is everything that I have done while traveling ….

and no one can take the everything that is everything that you have done while traveling away from you… not one person!

yup … do it…. go! venture out solo …. and tell me about it! 

I am excited about life! I am filled with Hope. I am overwhelmed with JOY!

I am going to do my best to live by the ‘Glad Texts’ 

(one of my favorites is–Psalms 98:4-Shout for joy to the Lord, all the earth,
burst into jubilant song with music) — Did you know that there are over 800 Glad Texts in the Bible?!?! More than one for each day of the year for me to live by.

#FearlessinShanghai #Thankful #joychangeslives #KMarieTakesChina #BlackGirlMagic #KarlaGirlLivingLife #BlackGirlJoy #LivingMyLifeLikeItsGolden #ChinaorBust #ChinaAintReady #BlackInShanghai #LookOutWorldHereComesKarla  #KarlaGirlJoy #BlackGirlInShanghai #eatsleeppartyrepeat #givingisgood #givingisfun #WakandaForever #ShuriAndNakiaAndOkoye #MelaninMagic #Blessed #FaithfulIsMyGod

“life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all”  – Hellen Keller

*I choose ADVENTURE*

lets talk about kmg and running

never ever -eva – eva- eva …. in my wildest dreams did i think i would be a runner

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Someone asked me awhile ago how I got into run and pretty much “how do you do it?”

Running is different for everyone. There are tons of apps, blogs, articles, sites, fitness groups, social media groups, trainers, and physical running groups you could join to learn about running. Here is my journey with being a runner….

I remember when I couldn’t run a mile. It seems crazy now that there was a time that I couldn’t run a mile. and when i say i couldn’t run a mile i mean it. after 1/4 of a mile i was winded and didnt want to go on…. but i slowly worked my way from 1/4 of a mile to 1/2 a mile then from 1/2 a mile to 1 mile.

in the beginning of my running journey it took me about 22 minutes to complete my mile. i know. i know. thats a long time. i really wanted to improve that so my immediate goal was to get to 20 minutes. when i completed my mile in 20 minutes i felt so accomplished. i believe in setting smart and reasonable goals. even though i hit this goal of a mile in 20 minutes i knew that i could do better. so i told myself 16 minutes – cut 4 minutes off of my mile running time for my mile. i knew that this would not be easy but i would have to be consistent with going to the park – walking-jogging-and running to hit this goal.

 – facts – i always want an extra box of girl scout cookies! always

it wasnt long before i set another goal. my big goal for running a mile was to be able to run a mile in 12-13 minutes. since i started my running journey i have never focused fully on speed – but more on distance- even with a distance focus i wanted to pick up the pace to cover more ground – so that my distance numbers would increase. i can know run a mile in about 11-13 minutes- keeping a good steady pace.

i did several things to help with becoming a better runner.

-i joined BLACK GIRLS RUN — and became a #BGRChick  — this was a great decision for me because eventhough the majority of the ladies in the group were experienced runners no one slighted you because you didnt have as much experience as others – and you were encouraged to walk, jog, or run — just keep moving

-i pushed myself 

-in the beginning i would just use Pandora and find a station that I enjoyed to use during my workout. i would walk a song – then ‘jog’ or move faster to a song – then walk – then jog – etc … until the time i set for my workout was complete. soon i would walk-jog-jog-walk-jog-jog ….until i was able to jog/run consistently.

-i drank (and still do) lots of water

-i know we know this but we need water. we should drink lots of water. everyday. im not going to tell you how much water you should drink a day because we all come to our own conclusions with the exact amount – but you need to drink lots of water everyday. i push myself to drink about 1/2 a gallon a day (and it keeps me running to the bathroom a lot)

-realized how important sleep is

– you need to sleep

-i used the CouchTo5k App … 

– i highly reccomned this app if you are a new runner

-i downloaed an app where i could add my friends who run and we challenge ourselves each month and can track how we do with each month.

-i am currently using RUNTASTIC … Adidas also has a great running app and MAP MY RUN.

one of the biggest things that has made running enjoyable for me is doing it with my friends. Signing up for organized events is a great way to push yourself (hopefully) to train for the event to help you improve and become a better run. organized events are fun- and if you do them with friends- its even more fun… lots of them have metals you get when you cross the finish line and tshirts. my friend and i travel for races and make weekend vacations out of them. fun-fitness-friends all wrapped into one.

running has really changed my life! i remember one day the nurse telling me that i was pre-hypertensive… that shook me! i didnt know what to think or what to do. i only decided to get my blood pressure checked because it is a service that my church offers on 1st Sundays and there’s always a long wait to leave church (the real reason) so I figured it if i get my bp checked when im finished i wont have to wait in a long line in the church parking lot. i didnt think getting my bp checked would change my life. when she checked it her eyes got big and she seemed really concerned. so she said lets sit a moment, allow you to calm down, and check it again. well – we checked it again and it was very high. so high she recommended that i visit my doctor during the coming week. i immediately made an appointment and saw my doctor on Tuesday. i told her (my doctor) about my experience at church and when she checked my bp it was still high. it could have been high for any number of reasons (clearly im anxious and nervous) but we decided to take it very seriously. she told me to track it and get it checked throughout the week for the next two weeks. i made another appointment to come back and see my doctor in two weeks. my bp was still high as i checked it at the local pharmacy so my doctor prescribed medicine to help me regulate my bp.

i was extremely discouraged. 28- young and taking bp meds. the exact reason why my bp was high is still a mystery but we came up with a list of reasons that ‘could be’ …. after about 6 months of taking these pills my bp was normal but i just wasnt okay with taking meds forever to have a good bp reading. i made an appointment with my doctor and asked what could we do…. i made drastic changes to my diet and my fitness life…. i took a lot of things out of my diet – the biggest being salt and fast foods – and i started running …. this is when my running journey really started …

when talking with my doctor we … nope I came up with a plan for me to not have to stay on meds. it was my idea – i told her “i dont want to take this medicine anymore” and she responded “what are you going to do about it” to which i explained to her my plan of changing my diet, drinking more water, and working out more.

since then i have been consistent with running… some seasons better than others but i am definitely a runner now. i enjoy running – mostly because its free. whereas i am not against the gym and i appreciate them – especially during hot summer months and super cold winter days – i dont want to pay for the gym. i can run anywhere. when i travel i always try and get a run in. i can push myself- run alone- or run with friends … it works – for me… so i do it….

the thing about this fitness journey is you have to find what works for you! and keep at that thing.

oh …. i am no longer taking blood pressure medication so thats exciting. i still try and get it checked regularly and if it ever peaks a little too high its a reminder to focus on my health (food/water/sleep/fitness) and stay consistent.

^the real reason i run^

so this post didnt have much to do with china/shanghai but some folks have asked me about running and how i do it. its not for everyone but i enjoy it. for me a playlist is everything … good music – good weather and hit the pavement …

if you can run while people are talking play a TEDTalk or a podcast or even an audio book – there are ways to make it enjoyable.

since ive been here in China I have been running a lot … mostly alone because schedules are crazy with friends but every once in awhile i find someone i can run with and thats nice

I love this picture!!!! I did a 5K while in Seoul — but life is also about balance so I also went to Krispy Kreme and tried some yummy snacks in the night market

#yolo #liveyourbestlifeeverday #smile #karlagirljoy

also as we talk about running- i set a goal to run 650km this year … i am currently 54% of the way there with 351 KM logged… just 299km to go!!!! (Yall know we used a different metric system here …

650KM = 403 miles 

299KM = 185.7

351 KM = 218.1

Make it a great week everyone! Month 8 blog post coming soon ….

I am excited about life! I am filled with Hope. I am overwhelmed with JOY!

I am going to do my best to live by the ‘Glad Texts’ 

(one of my favorites is–Psalms 98:4-Shout for joy to the Lord, all the earth,
burst into jubilant song with music) — Did you know that there are over 800 Glad Texts in the Bible?!?! More than one for each day of the year for me to live by.

#FearlessinShanghai #Thankful #joychangeslives #KMarieTakesChina #BlackGirlMagic #KarlaGirlLivingLife #BlackGirlJoy #LivingMyLifeLikeItsGolden #ChinaorBust #ChinaAintReady #BlackInShanghai #LookOutWorldHereComesKarla  #KarlaGirlJoy #BlackGirlInShanghai #eatsleeppartyrepeat #givingisgood #givingisfun #WakandaForever #ShuriAndNakiaAndOkoye #MelaninMagic #Blessed #FaithfulIsMyGod

“life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all”  – Hellen Keller

*I choose ADVENTURE*

Happy May- Happy Spring. While I am still sharing about my experiences in Shanghai and life abroad I want to highlight some of my favorite small businesses from home. They may be helpful for you one day. Enjoy.

The beauty and power of social media is that I feel like I know Tasha, but we have never met in person. I am in an educator group on Facebook and someone posted their “Last Day Of School” shirt- I loved it and wanted the exact same shirt. Tasha made it for me and I had it the day before the last day of school. She’s quick, does great quality work, will get your order to you on time, and if there is an issue with shipping- that is not her fault, she still finds a way to make it up to you. I am so glad that we “met” online and that we are still connected even while I am in Shanghai.

Tasha has made many items for me…. and her work is stunning. Just look below at PROM 2018! If you ever need something- she is the person to go to. I love supporting small business and she will always be on my list!

I am so excited to share with you my friend Tasha Love and her business, TLL Brand. TLL Brand – officially began April 28, 2017, though Tasha Love has been doing her thing with a needle and thread for a long time. It was in Spring of 2017 that she was able to go full time with her business and since then, business has been great. TLL Brand is more than just shirts, and dresses – it is dreams turned to reality. Tasha gives life to her clients desires, and the outcome is always nothing- short- of amazing.

TLL BRAND – PROM 2018

….just stunning and gorgeous all around!

I am excited about life! I am filled with Hope. I am overwhelmed with JOY!

I am going to do my best to live by the ‘Glad Texts’ 

(one of my favorites is–Psalms 98:4-Shout for joy to the Lord, all the earth,
burst into jubilant song with music) — Did you know that there are over 800 Glad Texts in the Bible?!?! More than one for each day of the year for me to live by.

#FearlessinShanghai #Thankful #joychangeslives #KMarieTakesChina #BlackGirlMagic #KarlaGirlLivingLife #BlackGirlJoy #LivingMyLifeLikeItsGolden #ChinaorBust #ChinaAintReady #BlackInShanghai #LookOutWorldHereComesKarla  #KarlaGirlJoy #BlackGirlInShanghai #eatsleeppartyrepeat #givingisgood #givingisfun #WakandaForever #ShuriAndNakiaAndOkoye #MelaninMagic #Blessed #FaithfulIsMyGod

“life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all”  – Hellen Keller

*I choose ADVENTURE*

I am so excited to share this interview with you all! Please enjoy getting to know my friend Sidney and learning a little about her experience being “BLACK AND ABROAD.”

#LIC – Let’s talk a little about Life in China! There are definitely some positives about being here.

What are three things you like about living in China (if you can think of three).

1. The black community here. The community here is very supportive and helpful. We have some of the most insightful and eye-opening conversations.
2. My Chinese family
3. My yoga class made a huge impact on improving my quality of life in Shanghai. I never felt out of place or unwelcomed. They encouraged me to push myself even when I did not feel like it haha.

What do you do for fun with your free time? 

1. Yoga, dance, eat, go to afro events, go to other events in Shanghai, and travel.

Has it been hard for you to meet people and make friends here? 

1. It has not been difficult for me to meet new people and make friends in China.

What do you do for work here in China?

1. I am a student and I have an internship working as a school social worker.

Food- Food makes the world go round!

1. How has your food journey been here? My food journey here has been interesting. Chinese people eat a lot of pork, and I don’t eat beef or pork. However, if you’re trying local dishes or hanging out with a Chinese family. It’s almost impossible not to eat pork. I spent the weekend at my Chinese family’s house and didn’t want to complicate things and ate what they served me. The transition has been slightly difficult.
2. Have you tried anything here that you love that you don’t have at home? I like the Chinese pancakes, those are my favorites. I really enjoy malatang, shucai boazes, and a couple of other dishes that are authentic to China. American Chinese food is not real Chinese food.
3. Have you tried anything here that you absolutely hate and hope to never eat again?Of course! Black stinky tofu is nasty! I do not like it at all. I think I have had other dishes I do not like but I can’t remember the names of the food.
4. How is shopping for food here for you? Do you spend a lot buying food or eating out?I hate grocery shopping in China. The layout of their grocery stores confuses and I prefer to order out because it’s not that expensive. Especially if you use one of the local Chinese ordering apps.

Access to travel – A lot of people move abroad because of the access to travel to other countries. Let’s talk about this!

1. China is huge!!! Have you been to any places in China? Are there any places in China you would like to visit? Of course, I have traveled China. I went to Lishui,   Hongzhou, Yellow Mountain, Shaoxing, and a couple of other places.
2. Have you visited any nearby countries since you have been here? Where did you go?I have traveled to Mongolia, Philippines, and Vietnam. I missed a trip to South Korea, unfortunately Over the Christmas break, I went home and to Aruba.
3. What cities/countries are on your list ???I am going back to Taiwan at the end of this month. My goal is to see Green island and orchid island. I am also traveling to Singapore and spending the month of June in India. I wish I had traveled more in China. The country is huge and there were so many more sites I would have loved to see.

One Last thing-

If you could share one thing with everyone about life what would it be.

If you wait on other people, it will never happen.

Thanks so much for joining me on my blog! Many blessings.

Here are a few pictures from Sidney’s time in China! Thanks for Sharing Sidney.

Sidney was a sweet reminder of how temporary the expat life is. Some people come to China and love it and stay. Some stay for their allotted time and leave. Some people come and go and live here off and on for years while going back home to America or other countries. I met Sidney shortly after arriving here and it was sistership (sister-friendship) at first sight. We both have degrees in Social Work and are passionate about making a real change and impact within our communities. We also both jumped into the Black Shanghai-China life quickly and became very connected – community is super important for both of us….. Sidney your smile definitely lights up a room and I love how you love to have a good time. You will surely be missed here in Shanghai – but I am so excited for all that is to come in your future Sidney. NYU is lucky to have you. Change the world with all your #melaninmagic  …. super bummed you’re not here with me … can’t wait to travel more and see you soon!

I am excited about life! I am filled with Hope. I am overwhelmed with JOY!

I am going to do my best to live by the ‘Glad Texts’ 

(one of my favorites is–Psalms 98:4-Shout for joy to the Lord, all the earth,
burst into jubilant song with music) — Did you know that there are over 800 Glad Texts in the Bible?!?! More than one for each day of the year for me to live by.

#FearlessinShanghai #Thankful #joychangeslives #KMarieTakesChina #BlackGirlMagic #KarlaGirlLivingLife #BlackGirlJoy #LivingMyLifeLikeItsGolden #ChinaorBust #ChinaAintReady #BlackInShanghai #LookOutWorldHereComesKarla  #KarlaGirlJoy #BlackGirlInShanghai #eatsleeppartyrepeat #givingisgood #givingisfun #WakandaForever #ShuriAndNakiaAndOkoye #MelaninMagic #Blessed #FaithfulIsMyGod

“life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all”  – Hellen Keller

*I choose ADVENTURE*

Hey Yall Hey!!!!

Today was Disney Day at work. Disney English has offices in different cities and everyone was welcome to join at Disneyland Shanghai!

If available cast member from neighboring cities join us at the park in Shanghai fun a fun filled day. Here are a few pictures from today!

I am just so stoked because I have been going to Disneyland

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… like all the time …. and I finally got pictures with all the princesses (that are available to take pictures with at Shanghai Disneyland) .

I hope you all are well! We are 5 months into the new year. Did you set any goals for the year??????????

…. we are almost halfway through the year – how are you doing in meeting your goals??? i would love to know… please respond and share! 

…in honor of Princess Tiana – the hardest working most amazing Disney Princess around …..I snapped another picture with her at the castle today #JUSTBECAUSE 

I am excited about life! I am filled with Hope. I am overwhelmed with JOY!

I am going to do my best to live by the ‘Glad Texts’ 

(one of my favorites is–Psalms 98:4-Shout for joy to the Lord, all the earth,
burst into jubilant song with music) — Did you know that there are over 800 Glad Texts in the Bible?!?! More than one for each day of the year for me to live by.

#FearlessinShanghai #Thankful #joychangeslives #KMarieTakesChina #BlackGirlMagic #KarlaGirlLivingLife #BlackGirlJoy #LivingMyLifeLikeItsGolden #ChinaorBust #ChinaAintReady #BlackInShanghai #LookOutWorldHereComesKarla  #KarlaGirlJoy #BlackGirlInShanghai #eatsleeppartyrepeat #givingisgood #givingisfun #WakandaForever #ShuriAndNakiaAndOkoye #MelaninMagic #Blessed #FaithfulIsMyGod

“life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all”  – Hellen Keller

*I choose ADVENTURE*

Happy May- Happy Spring. While I am still sharing about my experiences in Shanghai and life abroad I want to highlight some of my favorite small businesses from home. They may be helpful for you one day. Enjoy.

I am so excited to share Wear It Owt! with everyone!!! I have so many of Asha’s pieces and ever time I wear them I get so many compliments on my accessories! If you’re into handmade and one of a kind pieces that stand out then Wear It Owt! is definitely the site for you to check out. I was hooked after she made a special one of a kind piece for me for my birthday. Her creativity is amazing!!! We even had a session online (because we live in two different states to discuss what I wanted and how I wanted it to look and – boom – perfection!

She is totally #blackgirlmagic defined and I appreciated her patience and creativity to bring her customers satisfaction and accessory dream a reality……and now I am in a whole different country and she said she would still ship to me!

Check it owt below!!!!

Wear It Owt! was created in 2006 by Asha Reed, a talented creative. All the jewelry sold in our store is designed and produced in my home studio in Oakland, California. I try to make colorful pieces that are fun and stylish.  I craft my unique pieces from leather, polymer clay and vinyl. I hope you enjoy my work and will keep coming back.

 

I am excited about life! I am filled with Hope. I am overwhelmed with JOY!

I am going to do my best to live by the ‘Glad Texts’ 

(one of my favorites is–Psalms 98:4-Shout for joy to the Lord, all the earth,
burst into jubilant song with music) — Did you know that there are over 800 Glad Texts in the Bible?!?! More than one for each day of the year for me to live by.

#FearlessinShanghai #Thankful #joychangeslives #KMarieTakesChina #BlackGirlMagic #KarlaGirlLivingLife #BlackGirlJoy #LivingMyLifeLikeItsGolden #ChinaorBust #ChinaAintReady #BlackInShanghai #LookOutWorldHereComesKarla  #KarlaGirlJoy #BlackGirlInShanghai #eatsleeppartyrepeat #givingisgood #givingisfun #WakandaForever #ShuriAndNakiaAndOkoye #MelaninMagic #Blessed #FaithfulIsMyGod

“life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all”  – Hellen Keller

*I choose ADVENTURE*

1/2 a year complete!!! WOW! The time really does fly when you’re having fun – or living abroad – or traveling the world – I guess all of it!

April was a busy month. Work keeps me busy. Work is exhausting – when I am not working I am hanging with my friends, running, or traveling!

1/2 a year down … i am in month 7 … 7 more months to go….

What can I say about my 6th month in China? It was a busy month…. but that’s not new… as I look back at my photos in my gallery on my phone I am reminded of what I did during April!

I started the month with a trip to Disneyland…..

I know. I know. You’re probably like- so what’s new??? …. hey….its free! might as well use these perks– ya know??? A friend was in town from Beijing so I took her and her b/f to the park and I stayed for a short time until I had to go to work! That’s love yall. Going to the park – before work! Whew!

*if im honest though – these pictures are from my trip to Disneyland at the end of the month* for some reason the pics I want – wont post ): looks like I went to Disneyland a lot in April!

In April I visited 2 new countries- South Korea and Hong Kong

I went to Seoul, South Korea (there will be a post soon dedicated to my travels)

Yo! I absolutely loved Seoul! I had Seeeeeoul much fun! Seoul was my first international solo trip (if you don’t count me moving to Shanghai from America). I loved it. It was fun and spontaneous. I researched many things to do in Seoul, made a plan, and a schedule for myself and when I arrived I threw it all out the window. I explored. I asked people in the hotel and in town what I should do and see and I went with their recommendations and that made for a really great time. The food was amazing. The people were very nice. The cherry blossoms were in bloom. I shopped a TINY bit and just enjoyed my time away. Seoul, was great!

I went to Hong Kong-HK (I explained in an earlier post why HK is considered its own country) 

HK was great! If I am honest. I only wanted to go to HK to go to Disneyland. I am working on being a Disney completist by visiting all of the parks (Orlando-check. LA-check. Shanghai-check. Hong Kong- check. Japan- this summer. Paris- soon!)…. Also. THE BLACK PANTHER character is not at the Shanghai park so I took a trip to HK – to see a new park and get some pix with BP. (can someone tell T’Challa I’m committed to #Wakanda) I also got to hang with some Disney English ladies who work in Guangzhou.

We had a blast at the park!

We had our first meet up for #doubledutchsquad

You’re probably like – #doubledutchsquad — WHATS THAT??? Yo! We have come to Shanghai and started a double dutch group and I’m so here for it! We meet every other week – to do what? JUMP ROPE! Not with just one rope- but two! The on-looking is serious! We draw a crowd every time we meet at the park to jump, but were having a blast!

Visited Zhujiajiao Ancient Water Town- #ZAWT

#ZAWT- this was a great day! The weather was beautiful and I spent the day with my Shanghai Ace- Yolena! We decided to explore some of the city so we went to #ZAWT, which is right outside of the city. It is the second to last stop off of metro line 17 – a new metro line here in Shanghai. On the way to ZAWT a guy named Ben asked Yolena and I where in America we were from because he heard our American accents. Ben spent the day with us exploring ZAWT. He was meeting up with is tour group later in the evening but had the day to explore. He too- is an American, like us – and is Chinese – so it was nice having someone who knew the language. The water town was great, but was super busy and full of people. We were exhausted by the end of the day and very tired from all of the walking, but it was so nice to explore SH some.

…almost met my April challenge of 500,000 steps in the month – I did 498,472

soooooo about this challenge! I didn’t make it yall, – honesty is good- but I came close! I was in a fitness challenge with a group of friends here. The challenge was to do 500,000 steps during the month of April. I knew that this would be a challenge  and I was up for it. I am pretty active so I was ready to give it a try! I am excited I came so close. I was sick for a couple days and the doctor told me to “have a rest” so I did just that…. I had some very low movement days… so getting as close as I did is great … 498, 472 is HUGE! HUGE!!!!

I have so many thoughts about my time here in Shanghai. I went to dinner with some friends a couple weeks ago and they were shocked to hear that I don’t plan on renewing my contract with Disney English.

I definitely miss my life back in Texas. I am not a fan of China — but I have had some amazing experiences while I am here. I have made some wonderful friend and built some relationships that I know will last a lifetime. I have traveled and I have been to Disneyland more times than I can every count.

I don’t take this opportunity for granted … but yeah … I am looking forward to coming home soon.

It will be a lengthy post so I wont add it here, but I will share very soon my likes and dislikes re: my time in China. This has truly been  – quite – the – EXPERIENCE. 

^one of my favorite snacks here in Shanghai^ — if you know me — you know I am picky! …this treat right here is so tasty…

I have another spotlight coming soon. I am so excited to share it …. and another friend is sharing about her experience here in Shanghai! I will post her interview here before the end of the month!

Again. As always. Thanks for following me and joining me on my blog!

I am excited about life! I am filled with Hope. I am overwhelmed with JOY!

I am going to do my best to live by the ‘Glad Texts’ 

(one of my favorites is–Psalms 98:4-Shout for joy to the Lord, all the earth,
burst into jubilant song with music) — Did you know that there are over 800 Glad Texts in the Bible?!?! More than one for each day of the year for me to live by.

#FearlessinShanghai #Thankful #joychangeslives #KMarieTakesChina #BlackGirlMagic #KarlaGirlLivingLife #BlackGirlJoy #LivingMyLifeLikeItsGolden #ChinaorBust #ChinaAintReady #BlackInShanghai #LookOutWorldHereComesKarla  #KarlaGirlJoy #BlackGirlInShanghai #eatsleeppartyrepeat #givingisgood #givingisfun #WakandaForever #ShuriAndNakiaAndOkoye #MelaninMagic #Blessed #FaithfulIsMyGod

“life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all”  – Hellen Keller

*I choose ADVENTURE*

Yall know I’m a PJ fan!!!! Seriously … if you didn’t know … now you do!

It’s May and the start of my 7th month in China!!!!

Happy May- Happy Spring. While I am still sharing about my experiences in Shanghai and life abroad I want to highlight some of my favorite small businesses from home. They may be helpful for you one day. Enjoy.

I am super excited to share Lunar Moon & (Stationery) Co. with you all. T’keyah and I met earlier this year via “The Daniel Planners Experience” (which I will post about soon)! We have been accountability partners for the past 5 months and it has been a great experience watching each other develop and meet personal and professional goals. We have manged to hold each other accountable being in two different countries, serious time zone changes, using email- and specific apps to connect, and my specific wifi issues while in Shanghai. Through it all it’s been wonderful.

I hope that you can check out her site and follow her on Instagram/Facebook if you use those social platforms…..

Lunar Moon & (Stationery) Co.

About:

Lunar Moon & (Stationery) Co. was just a dream that came to life in Early 2017.

After much research, dream boarding, and schooling I took all what I had learned from taking Graphic Design Classes at a Local Community College applied it to my love for stationery. To create the things, and have a store that brought that nostalgia of all the things I loved as a kid together all in one place. Lunar Moon & Co. was born from my love of making nothings into somethings and how joyous people were when they received their products.

• Shop Small + Shop Local. As the founder of The Lunar Moon & Co. I’m working hard trying to build a scholarship fund for kids that are functional epileptics like myself. To assist with their education fund, and medical needs. Cause I know what it’s like to overcome all the stereotypes and preconceived notions that comes attached to having a disability, and fighting to not allow it to hinder you from being great. It’s because of people like you that allow makers like me to keep art alive and do what we do best create.
• Get 10% off when you sign-up for our email list. I won’t spam you – I promise
• Website: https://www.thelunarmoonco.com/
• Facebook: facebook.com/thelunarmoonco
• Instagram: @lunarmoonco

I am excited about life! I am filled with Hope. I am overwhelmed with JOY!

I am going to do my best to live by the ‘Glad Texts’ 

(one of my favorites is–Psalms 98:4-Shout for joy to the Lord, all the earth,
burst into jubilant song with music) — Did you know that there are over 800 Glad Texts in the Bible?!?! More than one for each day of the year for me to live by.

#FearlessinShanghai #Thankful #joychangeslives #KMarieTakesChina #BlackGirlMagic #KarlaGirlLivingLife #BlackGirlJoy #LivingMyLifeLikeItsGolden #ChinaorBust #ChinaAintReady #BlackInShanghai #LookOutWorldHereComesKarla  #KarlaGirlJoy #BlackGirlInShanghai #eatsleeppartyrepeat #givingisgood #givingisfun #WakandaForever #ShuriAndNakiaAndOkoye #MelaninMagic #Blessed #FaithfulIsMyGod

“life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all”  – Hellen Keller

*I choose ADVENTURE*

Maybe you have come across this post because you follow this blog- or you have been looking for blog posts about moving to China. I hope you find this post helpful for you. I read a lot of posts before I moved to Shanghai and talked to a lot of people. Some things you don’t know to ask about and really wont know until you arrive in your new city. Happy traveling. If you’re not moving check out the post anyway-you may find it interesting or be able to share it with someone. The last 6 months have been quite the journey.

How exciting!!! You are in for a real treat and adventure — Butterflies and a little nervousness is to be expected.

I hope that this list ….which is not exhaustive…helps you to pack and prepare for your big move. CONGRATULATIONS on a new and unforgettable experience.

BE open to NEW. China is not America. You will not be at home.

Things will be difficult in the beginning and you will soon become adjusted – and feel somewhat- at ….

HOME

If you’re reading this list you’re probably considering moving abroad – this list is focused on China – if you are thinking of moving to another country this may be helpful for you to know how to prepare and what to expect.

This is not a perfect of exhaustive list. The information here has been taken from my personal experience and that of other Black Americans in China. If you have any other questions or comments feel free to respond to this post!

You will have some great days – some okay days- and some really tough China days that make you think “WHY AM I HERE???”

…. I suggest writing about it- journaling- or MAYBE EVEN blogging….

IT will be great to have a concrete way to look back on your experience.  

You’re taking the road less traveled. You will be better for it!

I am excited about life! I am filled with Hope. I am overwhelmed with JOY!

I am going to do my best to live by the ‘Glad Texts’ 

(one of my favorites is–Psalms 98:4-Shout for joy to the Lord, all the earth,
    burst into jubilant song with music) — Did you know that there are over 800 Glad Texts in the Bible?!?! More than one for each day of the year for me to live by.

#FearlessinShanghai #Thankful #joychangeslives #KMarieTakesChina #BlackGirlMagic #KarlaGirlLivingLife #BlackGirlJoy #LivingMyLifeLikeItsGolden #ChinaorBust #ChinaAintReady #BlackInShanghai #LookOutWorldHereComesKarla  #KarlaGirlJoy #BlackGirlInShanghai #eatsleeppartyrepeat #givingisgood #givingisfun #WakandaForever #ShuriAndNakiaAndOkoye #MelaninMagic #Blessed #FaithfulIsMyGod

“life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all”  – Hellen Keller

*I choose ADVENTURE*

I have decided to answer the same questions I asked of my friends. I have been in Shanghai for ½ a year and I have a little over ½ a year left here. There will be a few more interviews coming in the Fall.

Let’s do a quick introduction:

1. What’s your name, where are you from, and how long have you been in China? Karla Marie! I am from Oak Cliff (Dallas, Texas) by way of East Palo Alto (SF Bay Area, California) – Yes I claim both places – and I have been in China for 6 months.
2. Are you single, married, have any children? I am single- never married, and I have no children.
3. What brought you to Asia- more specifically China? I decided to come to Asia to do something I have never done. I am a part of a few online educator groups and I kept hearing about teachers/educators traveling and living abroad – teaching in far off places. I kept thinking- can I do this? Nahhhhh I can’t do this. Then I thought, wayment- maybe I can. SO I did a little research and decided to go for it.

Now we have a little background information about you lets dig a little deeper!

Breaking and Crushing:

1. In your opinion – what do you think are some of the biggest stereotypes we (generally speaking – though I know you don’t speak for everyone) face as people of color living abroad – here in China? Biggest stereotypes – We all come from Africa/loud/athletic/uneducated/thugs-hoodlums-aggressive-want to fight
   ster·e·o·type
   noun: a widely held but fixed and oversimplified image or idea of a particular type of person or thing

   To be honest- some stereotypes are true and its not a bad thing fitting a stereotype. What sucks is that not all stereotypes are not true and/or they do not fit all people. We must be careful not to generalize individuals – and spend time educating ourselves about the world outside of our personal community/world. Sometimes – I am loud (well, a lot of times), but not all Black Americans are loud. I am not from Africa (ha! that one was hard for my students to believe. That there are Black people in America. That’s a long history lesson that they are not getting in school). Unfortunate. Yes.
2. What are some of the biggest challenges you have faced living here? Biggest challenge is navigating life without knowing the language. You can definitely survive here and make it without knowing the language, but I know that life would be a little simpler if I knew Chinese. I am also exhausted from daily being stared at (I know that a lot of this happens as a result of ignorance and curiosity), but I feel like people look at me in a few ways: 1-Why are you here  2- Like I have blue skin with red polka dots – some rare creature that doesn’t exist everywhere. 3- I really wanna touch you and see what you feel like 4- Disgusted 5-Amazed — I mean #blackgirlmagic is a real thing. I would probably be amazed if I saw me too. I see other Black Ladies and I’m like … whoa!

Another challenge that is not so much a challenge anymore is walking everywhere. The metro is your way of life – and walking everywhere. Walking 15-20 minutes becomes normal, whereas at home I probably wouldn’t go for that. You can use bikes, scooters, call a DiDi (China’s version of Uber) or a taxi – but that will all add up. SO I walk just about everywhere. Hey! I’ll be in super great shape right when I come home???

3. How do you think we are crushing stereotypes- if we are at all? I totally think we are. We are giving a new look African Americans/Black Americans. There are so many of us here in China. African Americans/Black Americans/Africans/Individuals from the Diaspora … from all over. We are showing the world that we are educated, we are cultured, we come from around the world, and we can settle here, work, and be amazing! The expat community here is pretty amazing and that has helped with me adjusting to life here. I have met individuals who have moved here and started businesses, met their spouse-married-started a family, who have lived here for +3/5/7/10 years and made a life here. It is really beautiful.                                          I really feel that we are showing what diversity looks like and how we as people can all live in community with each other. I am glad that I get to show a different Black American than what is shown in music videos/video games/the news/internet/television shows movies/YouTube shows/crappy-low budget films/and the media at large. We are changing the view of us one interaction at a time. It’s nice – through all of the challenging moments that I get to be a part of that.
4. Knowing what you know now- about life in China and being here as long as you have been here, would you still have moved here knowing what you know now? HMMMM! This is hard to answer. I wanna say “Nope! No Way” – but I wanna say, “Yep!” at the same time…. There is so much that I do not like about China and so much that I do like at the same time. I think that I would have still come but I would have really taken advantage of Rosetta Stone that was given to me to practice the language and did more research on Chinese culture. I am glad I took the leap of faith and came – it is quite the adventure. I wouldn’t trade these priceless experiences for anything. Maybe a TWISTED ROOT BURGER but … ya know! I am looking forward to coming home though!

#LIC – Let’s talk a little about Life in China! There are definitely some positives about being here.

1. What are three things you like about living in China (if you can think of three). The expat community – Access to Travel – The ability to do anything at any time (everything is here) aaaaaaand – you can order anything and have it delivered quickly! ANYTHING.
2. What do you do for fun with your free time? Everything! I eat out a lot – travel- go to comedy clubs – and game nights with friends.
3. Has it been hard for you to meet people and make friends here? Not at all (but, for those who know me- is that new?)
4. What do you do for work here in China? I am an ESL Teacher- working for Disney English.

Food- Food makes the world go round!

1. How has your food journey been here? Has it been a hard transition from home to here? Yes! So difficult. UgH!
2. Have you tried anything here that you love that you don’t have at home? NO. 
3. Have you tried anything here that you absolutely hate and hope to never eat again? Yes! Deep Fried Glutinous Rice Balls with Sesame – ick … but I was brave and tried it. I couldn’t even finish it.
4. How is shopping for food here for you? Do you spend a lot buying food or eating out? Yes! I spend a lot on food. I am picky and I don’t like everything. I find myself shopping at foreign/imported grocery stores and eating out at foreign/Western Restaurants.

Access to travel – A lot of people move abroad because of the access to travel to other countries. Let’s talk about this!

1. China is huge!!! Have you been to any places in China? Are there any places in China you would like to visit? IN China- Suzhou and Zhujiajiao Ancient Water Town. I would love to go to Beijing to see THE GREAT WALL OF CHINA – Chengdu to see the Pandas – and to Xian!
2. Have you visited any nearby countries since you have been here? Where did you go? Yes. I have been to Bangkok, Thailand – Seoul, South Korea, and Hong Kong, Hong Kong-HK (HK has its own passport, money, immigration channels, and legal system. I have Hong Kong on my list of other countries visited because when I travel there from Shanghai I travel through the international and not domestic side of the airport. I did a little research and here is what I found out. HK has never been an independent country. For all official purposes HK is a part of China, but for all intents – and daily occourences it is allowed to operate as an independent country. If flying to HK when already in China you will fly on an international flight and you will have to exchange your money for HK currency).
3. What cities/countries are on your list ???

   

I don’t know if it will happen while I am here but I would love to go to:   Maylasia/Singapore- Japan – India …. Lets see!

 Here are some pictures from my travels and my time in China. 

One Last thing-

If you could share one thing with everyone about life what would it be.

Life is short. Buy the shoes. Take the trip. Smile often.

Try something new once a month. Tell your family you love them.

Experiences over things. BE KIND. 

Face your fears and I promise you that your future self will thank you for it.

Remain Humble and Stay Grateful.

That’s all for the interviews for now… a few more coming soon! In May I will still share about my experiences while abroad and highlight some of my favorite small businesses that I would love for you all to know about! Paz.

             Im Jammin to this …. (of course with lots of PJ MORTON in between!) Enjoy.

I am excited about life! I am filled with Hope. I am overwhelmed with JOY!

I am going to do my best to live by the ‘Glad Texts’ 

(one of my favorites is–Psalms 98:4-Shout for joy to the Lord, all the earth,
    burst into jubilant song with music) — Did you know that there are over 800 Glad Texts in the Bible?!?! More than one for each day of the year for me to live by.

#FearlessinShanghai #Thankful #joychangeslives #KMarieTakesChina #BlackGirlMagic #KarlaGirlLivingLife #BlackGirlJoy #LivingMyLifeLikeItsGolden #ChinaorBust #ChinaAintReady #BlackInShanghai #LookOutWorldHereComesKarla  #KarlaGirlJoy #BlackGirlInShanghai #eatsleeppartyrepeat #givingisgood #givingisfun #WakandaForever #ShuriAndNakiaAndOkoye #MelaninMagic #Blessed #FaithfulIsMyGod

“life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all”  – Hellen Keller

*I choose ADVENTURE*